to the Other Woman

Honestly, just what the f&$k were you thinking? You knew he was In a relationship. You knew he had a new born baby. You knew he slept beside me every night. And you knew that I knew nothing, at least at the beginning. Is that what made it so delicious? So tempting? That I appeared by his side at various moments, at our surf school, clueless to what was going on behind my back? Did you feel triumphant? That you'd beat me at something?

Okay, so I looked stupid, at least to you. Is the satisfaction of that worth sacrificing your own dignity? Did you enjoy your position, because looking back on the timeline, I think you might be a psychopath.

Did you think it was simply a matter of time before this came to light? All your stalking and desperate acts of attention of throwing yourself at another womens man, a man with a family. But you cry, it was him it was him. It was both of you. Did you think that you would be appealing enough for him to walk away from the life he'd built? That all those fantasies you'd convinced yourself of – aka your dream life, your fleeting moments of your affair with my boyfriend, that you convinced yourself was yours? Did he tell you that I was lousy in bed, that I was boring and bitchy, that we weren’t having sex, that our relationship was failing, and you had nothing to do with it? Did you think that was actually true? What happened to you in your life to act like this? Did you really believe that any relationship based on deception would deliver you from your unhappiness and your deep rooted loneliness?

My guess is, yes, you did.

My guess is that very few Other Women honestly admit their role as an accomplice in the intentional hurting and decepition of another human being. Often another human being you don't know, but you did know me, in fact you not only stalked him, you stalked me, his baby and even our business too. You had the audacity to go into my vechiles, on the back of motorcycle and into my home. In your mind, did you you convince yourself something along the lines of "we're soulmates", "we couldn't help ourselves", "the chemistry was too powerful" or "you can't stop love." All of which, I suspect you recognize on some level, is total bullshit. All of which allows you to be a hoe, and live as free as the ocean or whatever BS you claim on your social media.

"We didn't mean to hurt anyone," you cry and point the finger at him, as if you had nothing to do with it.

But oh. Yes. You. Did.

Because you knew, and you knew he was in a relationship and you wouldn’t stop, you wouldn’t stop until you ruined his relationship that he chose to be in time and time again. I even sent you messages on several occasions, but you did not care and I don’t care what he was telling you, he lived with me and came home to me and his family every day and night. I will forever share a child with him and you, what do you share? A fake bond from a man you do not really know? What do you share, delusions and illusions of love? Maybe you have never been loved, so rightfully you wanted to take someone elses. How many other people do you have sex with to gain control over them?

You knew that I was being hurt, you even looked into my eyes on many occasions. You knew I was being lied to. And betrayed. And you participated in that. Knowingly. Willingly. Perhaps even happily. Are you some sort of Narcissist? Is your self esteem that low? What shame you must live in.

What's more, my baby was being hurt and deprived of love from her father that you were so desperately seeking. And though I don't expect you to take total responsibility for that (after all, HE was her father), you nonetheless contributed to the end of her family, and the end of her having a father.

And for what?

Was the sex that good? Were the feelings of superiority, if only for the brief time he was with you, so intoxicating that it made all the humiliating departures, all the embarrassment when you were caught, all the shame this no doubt triggered, worth it? Do you think your actions were normal or justified because ¨he talked to you¨ as I recall you responding, do you have sex with every man that is in a relationship that talks to you? Do your friends still defend you from your chosen actions? Do they know who you really are ? What were you doing stalking a man who has a drinking problem, was it easier when he was drunk to get his attention with your unkept body? How many taken men have you opened your legs for now? I remember seeing you on the live webcam, while he was holding my baby, I saw you then and I still see your true colors, they are not so colorful no matter how you try to paint it.

I can only feel pity for you, as I see you hanging out with other womans children, posting it publicly and knowing you ruined any chance of my daughter having her father, because you continued to interfere in my relationship and stalk my partner. I don’t know if you are borderline a psychopath, a female narcissist or just straight up delusional because no-one does this unless they value themselves so little that they settle for another's scraps rather than demand respect and kindness. Or unless they're so delusional that they really believe that this is how true love manifests.

I have a timeline of events and when I am ready, I will tell the story and to you, the other woman, who choose to be the other woman, who openly interfered in my relationship and ultimately destroyed it, soon it will all come to light and I hope no other woman has to go through what I went through because of your obsession and lack of control over yourself. I hope you get help and take a long look in the mirror at your actions over the last years and realize who you are. You are not a victim, as you are trying to portray yourself as. You chose this over and over again, I watched you so many times, stalking him, doing these outrageous acts for attention, in front of me and his child.

You are the Other Woman and another woman’s man is not and never will be your soulmate. You openly and proudly destroyed my relationship. I do not know how you sleep at night or look at yourself in the mirror everyday, the same for him. I hope you get help and stop choosing to be the other woman. Hurt people, hurt people and you are obviously a very hurt person. Please heal your childhood traumas, you are not a little girl anymore.